英语美文:A 91-Year-Old Grandpa Shares the Secret to
a Good Life
九十一岁的爷爷分享幸福生活的秘密
by Kitsana
Dounglomchan
Updated: Feb. 07,
2017
原文链接:
https://www.thehealthy.com/aging/healthy-aging/grandpa-on-aging-well/
【博主按语】九十一岁的祖父已经失去了年轻时的活力,面色枯黄,已无力打理自己的花园,作者问的问题却引起祖父的沉思---慢慢地老去是一种什么样的感觉?祖父喝了一口茶,与作者娓娓道来他富有哲理的生活感悟…
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I
ask
my
grandpa
what
it
feels
like to
grow old. He
ponders this question while we sit in his office overlooking the
yard, the same yard I pulled weeds in when I was a
boy.
It is late
in the afternoon, but Grandpa is wearing pajama bottoms, slippers,
and a thick flannel shirt. His face is withered, his once taut
flesh sagging loosely from his bones. A cup of black tea rests on
the wooden desk in front of him. Grandpa drank coffee most of his
life but switched to tea a few years back, when coffee became too
hard on his stomach.
Grandpa’s mind brightens and dims like a beam of
light underneath a magnifying glass on a cloudy day. But on good
days, on days like this one, there’s a break in the
clouds and the sun shines through again.
He gazes
out the office window and looks at his yard, which has gone into a
state of decline in recent years. Grandpa no longer possesses the
energy to maintain its once magnificent splendor. Tree branches
droop over the fishpond he built, the pond's surface covered with a layer of green
algae. Weeds sprout around the brick path weaving through the
garden. An empty bird feeder dangles lifelessly from a tree
limb.
Grandpa and
I spent many hours during my summer vacations from elementary
school working in the yard. We started in the afternoon when the
sun was near its zenith. Grandpa would don an Oakland Fire
Department baseball cap, faded blue jeans, and a white T-shirt.
Back then, he was a tireless man with a burly body like a
sailor.
My main job
was weed patrol, because Grandpa performed the glamorous work,
excavating the rich California soil for a new addition to his
ever-expanding yard. He grew tomatoes on metal stakes and planted
strawberries, lettuce, and radishes in the ground. And when they
were ripe for picking, he'd bring them inside to
Grandma’s kitchen so they could be
prepared.
Grandpa was
an artist. The yard and garden were his canvases, the flowers and
plants his palette of paints. He was constantly bent over on all
fours honing his art, the knees of his jeans stained
brown.
At the end
of the day, in the early evening, the air would become crisp and
cool. Before calling it quits, Grandpa and I would wash up and get
a drink of water at the hose on the side of the house. Grandpa
would give the T-handle on the spigot a turn or two. The limp hose
would stiffen, and then he’d cup his hand underneath the hose, the
water pooling tranquilly in his palm. He'd lift his
hand to his mouth and drink, quenching his thirst with each
sup.
I tried
imitating him but could never clench my fingers tight enough, and
the water would slip through the slits of my fingers and dribble
wastefully to the ground.
But before
going inside, we’d fill
up the bird feeder next to the pond. I'd go to the
garage and find the seed bag, a blend of sunflowers, cracked corn,
and millet. We'd walk into the garden, sauntering
along the brick path to where the bird feeder hung from the tree.
Grandpa would remove the top of the feeder—a wooden
rooftop—and lift me by my armpits. Then
I'd pour the seed into the feeder, my shoes dangling
near his thighs.
Grandpa
takes a sip of his black tea, still pondering my question on aging.
And without ever taking his eyes from the window, he asks me a
question. “Have you
ever been in a hot shower when the water ran cold?”I
tell him I have.
“That's what aging feels like,”
he says. “In the beginning of your life,
it's like you're taking a hot shower. At
first the water is too warm, but you get used to the heat and begin
enjoying it. When you’re young, you think
it's going to be this way forever. Life goes on like
this for a while.”
Grandpa
gives me a mischievous grin and leans toward me.
“And if you're
lucky,” he whispers, just out of
Grandma’s earshot, “a few good-looking
women will join you in the shower until you decide to settle
down.”
We both
laugh. He leans back in his chair, looks out the window, and
continues on.
“But
you begin to feel it somewhere between your 40s and 50s. The water
temperature drops just the slightest bit. It's almost
imperceptible, but you know it happened, and you know what it
means. You try to pretend like you didn't feel it, but
you still turn the faucet up to stay warm. But the water keeps
going lukewarm. One day you realize the faucet can't
go any farther, and from here on out the temperature begins to
drop—you gradually feel the warmth leaving your
body.”
Grandpa
clears his throat and pulls a stained handkerchief from his flannel
shirt pocket. He blows his nose, balls up the handkerchief, and
puts it away.
“It's a rather helpless feeling, truth
told,” he continues. “The water is still
pleasant, but you know it'll soon become cold and
there's nothing you can do. I knew a few people who
decided to leave the shower on their own terms. They knew it was
never going to get warmer, so why prolong the inevitable? I was
able to stay in because I contented myself recalling the showers of
my youth. I lived a good life but still wish I hadn't
taken my younger years for granted. It’s too late now,
and no matter how hard I try, I'll never get the hot
water on again.”
Grandpa
keeps looking out the window with those eyes that have seen 91
years on this earth. Those eyes that endured the Great Depression
in the '30s, those eyes
that survived the Pacific Ocean in the
'40s, those eyes that witnessed the birth of his three
children, five grand-children, and seven
great-grandchildren.
He has
indeed lived a good life, I say to myself. Later on that day, after
dinner, I drive down to Home Depot and buy a bag of birdseed. I
come back to the house, park in the driveway, and take the bag of
seed out of the car. I open the garage door and find a plastic
bucket. I empty the bucket and take it out to the yard, walking
alone now. The sun is setting, the twilight changing into night,
but I follow the well-worn brick path leading out to the pond,
pulling any weeds I spot along the way. When I come to the end of
the path, I set the bucket and seed bag down and lift the bird
feeder from the tree limb. I tear a tiny hole in the bag and pour
the seed into the feeder. After it's full, I replace the rooftop and hang the
feeder back on the tree limb.
I leave the
yard. I dump the bucket of weeds in the trash and set the bag of
seed inside the garage. I go inside, excited to tell Grandpa about
what I've done. But the
living room is already dark. I then notice the glow of the
television bouncing off the walls and see Grandpa reclined all the
way back in his easy chair. A blanket is draped across his legs;
his eyelids are closed.
I sit down
in the chair next to him. His hands are interlaced across his
stomach like a Buddhist statue, his chest rising and falling ever
so faintly. I think about waking him up but decide not to disturb
his sleep, a sleep which will soon last forever.
I hope he
is dreaming the dreams of his youth, remembering the warmth of days
gone by, the days before the water ran cold.
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Originally
Published: February 07, 2017
This
article was published in Reader's Digest International
Edition