【成年人的最高情商：有话直说】诗韵咏合
[Adults' highest emotional intelligence: Speak straight] Poetic harmony
古风
Ancient customs
一个心理学家说：人的一生烦恼多。
十之八九是人们，不话直说引起的。
造成烦恼的根源，沟通逻辑搞反了。
人们总在交往中，拐弯抹角去解说。
A psychologist said: people h
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古风
Ancient customs
一个心理学家说：人的一生烦恼多。
十之八九是人们，不话直说引起的。
造成烦恼的根源，沟通逻辑搞反了。
人们总在交往中，拐弯抹角去解说。
A psychologist said: people h
ave more troubles in their life.
Nine times out of ten, it's people not speaking up.
The root cause of the trouble is the wrong communication logic.
People are always talking in a roundabout way.
期盼对方他能够，洞悉我们的内心。
但是我们却忘了，其实没有多少人。
愿意从你潜台词，研究你的话外音。
也没有人会愿意，听你阴阳怪气声。
Hoping that he can see into our hearts.
But we forget that there aren't many of them.
Willing to study your voice from your subtext.
And no one will want to listen to your weird voice.
人们一来一往中，自然矛盾总不停。
频频陷入内耗中，最终渐行渐远行。
人与人的交往里，有话直说好交心。
便是为人处世的，最高情商与意境。
As people come and go, there are natural contradictions.
Frequently fell into internal friction, and eventually went farther and farther.
In interpersonal communication, speak straight and be honest.
It is the highest emotional intelligence and artistic conception of life.
说话拐弯又抹角，矛盾误解纭纭着。
都说说话讲三分，剩下七分去琢磨。
猜来猜去费尽心，错过好心又何苦。
沟通桥梁是语言，有话直说便是了。
The speaker has the horns or legs; contradictions or misunderstandings mean so many things.
Talk about three points, leave seven points to figure out.
Guess to guess to spend too much time, miss the good.
The bridge of communication is language, and it is necessary to speak plainly.
人生来不是孤岛，难免摩擦常常遇。
但是有了摩擦后，却不认真对待之。
Be honest and direct about the situation, avoid speculation and internal friction.
Speaking your mind is a powerful weapon against your emotions.
Life is not an island, it is inevitable that friction is often encountered.
But when there was friction, they didn't take it seriously.
彼此之间依旧是，你遮我掩无休止。
说些言不由衷话，互相遮掩相猜忌。
那他最后只能是，疏远冷落常戚戚。
别人未必他就会，直言坦诚对待你。
Between each other is still, you cover me endless.
Say things you don't mean, hide things from each other.
Then he'll end up estranged and estranged.
He doesn't always have to be honest with you.
有话直说不等于，口无遮拦说一气。
也许我们不认为，自己谈话是暴力。
但是语言确实会，常常引发人猜忌。
有话直说让问题，更快圆满地解决。
Speaking your mind is not the same as speaking your mind.
Maybe we don't think talking to ourselves is violence.
But language does, and often provokes suspicion.
Speaking your mind will help solve problems faster and better.
良言一句三冬暖，恶语伤人六月寒。
相处之中最伤人，不是直言不忌惮。
刀子利嘴豆腐心，心口不一使人颤。
明明心里在意人，冷言冷语淡淡然。
A good word is warm in winter, and a bad word hurts in June.
The most hurtful thing in a relationship is not speaking out without fear.
A sharp knife is worse than a sharp tongue.
Clearly heart care about people, cold words light and indifferent.
很想鼓励孩子们，但到嘴边又抠门。
哪怕感情再深厚，渐渐疏离渐离分。
不妨让嘴服内心，表达爱就尽衷情。
心生满意就必须，大方鼓励去践行。
I want to encourage the kids, but I'm so stingy.
Even if the feelings are deep, gradually estranged from each other.
May as well let the mouth to the heart, express love to the heart.
Satisfaction is a must, and generous encouragement to practice.
而是不要让感情，藏着掖着耍心机。
让爱的人不懂你，在不懂中走散尽。
只有如此才能把，平的日子过安宁。
有滋有味地生活，更有暖意与诗韵。
It's about not letting feelings hide and play tricks.
Let the people you love don't understand you, walk away in don't understand.
It's the only way to make a peaceful life.
Life is full of flavor, more warmth and poetry.
没有何路通真诚，真诚本身就是路。
比起掩饰和伪装，真诚沟通是佳途。
往往它能让事情，得到意想好结果。
情真意切地说话，坦诚待人人助我。
There is no way to sincerity, sincerity is the way.
Honest communication is better than disguising and pretending.
Often it can make things work out for the best.
Speak honestly, be honest with others and help me.
有话直说更考验，人的情商和能力。
有话直说不意味，蛮不讲理无凭据。
而是有理有根据，让人信服信喜悦。
前言不搭后语这，往往会遭人抛去。
Speaking your mind is a greater test of emotional intelligence and ability.
Just because you speak your mind doesn't mean you have no reason to.
It's a matter of reason, of conviction and joy.
The words do not match the words, often will be thrown away.
无论家人或朋友，想要感情能长久。
终究他也离不开，讲话说话的方式。
甜蜜爱情离不开，坦诚表达我心意；
温暖亲情离不开，关爱勇敢地展示。
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Nine times out of ten, it's people not speaking up.
The root cause of the trouble is the wrong communication logic.
People are always talking in a roundabout way.
期盼对方他能够，洞悉我们的内心。
但是我们却忘了，其实没有多少人。
愿意从你潜台词，研究你的话外音。
也没有人会愿意，听你阴阳怪气声。
Hoping that he can see into our hearts.
But we forget that there aren't many of them.
Willing to study your voice from your subtext.
And no one will want to listen to your weird voice.
人们一来一往中，自然矛盾总不停。
频频陷入内耗中，最终渐行渐远行。
人与人的交往里，有话直说好交心。
便是为人处世的，最高情商与意境。
As people come and go, there are natural contradictions.
Frequently fell into internal friction, and eventually went farther and farther.
In interpersonal communication, speak straight and be honest.
It is the highest emotional intelligence and artistic conception of life.
说话拐弯又抹角，矛盾误解纭纭着。
都说说话讲三分，剩下七分去琢磨。
猜来猜去费尽心，错过好心又何苦。
沟通桥梁是语言，有话直说便是了。
The speaker has the horns or legs; contradictions or misunderstandings mean so many things.
Talk about three points, leave seven points to figure out.
Guess to guess to spend too much time, miss the good.
The bridge of communication is language, and it is necessary to speak plainly.
- 遇事坦诚直相告，避免猜测和内耗。
人生来不是孤岛，难免摩擦常常遇。
但是有了摩擦后，却不认真对待之。
Be honest and direct about the situation, avoid speculation and internal friction.
Speaking your mind is a powerful weapon against your emotions.
Life is not an island, it is inevitable that friction is often encountered.
But when there was friction, they didn't take it seriously.
彼此之间依旧是，你遮我掩无休止。
说些言不由衷话，互相遮掩相猜忌。
那他最后只能是，疏远冷落常戚戚。
别人未必他就会，直言坦诚对待你。
Between each other is still, you cover me endless.
Say things you don't mean, hide things from each other.
Then he'll end up estranged and estranged.
He doesn't always have to be honest with you.
有话直说不等于，口无遮拦说一气。
也许我们不认为，自己谈话是暴力。
但是语言确实会，常常引发人猜忌。
有话直说让问题，更快圆满地解决。
Speaking your mind is not the same as speaking your mind.
Maybe we don't think talking to ourselves is violence.
But language does, and often provokes suspicion.
Speaking your mind will help solve problems faster and better.
良言一句三冬暖，恶语伤人六月寒。
相处之中最伤人，不是直言不忌惮。
刀子利嘴豆腐心，心口不一使人颤。
明明心里在意人，冷言冷语淡淡然。
A good word is warm in winter, and a bad word hurts in June.
The most hurtful thing in a relationship is not speaking out without fear.
A sharp knife is worse than a sharp tongue.
Clearly heart care about people, cold words light and indifferent.
很想鼓励孩子们，但到嘴边又抠门。
哪怕感情再深厚，渐渐疏离渐离分。
不妨让嘴服内心，表达爱就尽衷情。
心生满意就必须，大方鼓励去践行。
I want to encourage the kids, but I'm so stingy.
Even if the feelings are deep, gradually estranged from each other.
May as well let the mouth to the heart, express love to the heart.
Satisfaction is a must, and generous encouragement to practice.
而是不要让感情，藏着掖着耍心机。
让爱的人不懂你，在不懂中走散尽。
只有如此才能把，平的日子过安宁。
有滋有味地生活，更有暖意与诗韵。
It's about not letting feelings hide and play tricks.
Let the people you love don't understand you, walk away in don't understand.
It's the only way to make a peaceful life.
Life is full of flavor, more warmth and poetry.
没有何路通真诚，真诚本身就是路。
比起掩饰和伪装，真诚沟通是佳途。
往往它能让事情，得到意想好结果。
情真意切地说话，坦诚待人人助我。
There is no way to sincerity, sincerity is the way.
Honest communication is better than disguising and pretending.
Often it can make things work out for the best.
Speak honestly, be honest with others and help me.
有话直说更考验，人的情商和能力。
有话直说不意味，蛮不讲理无凭据。
而是有理有根据，让人信服信喜悦。
前言不搭后语这，往往会遭人抛去。
Speaking your mind is a greater test of emotional intelligence and ability.
Just because you speak your mind doesn't mean you have no reason to.
It's a matter of reason, of conviction and joy.
The words do not match the words, often will be thrown away.
无论家人或朋友，想要感情能长久。
终究他也离不开，讲话说话的方式。
甜蜜爱情离不开，坦诚表达我心意；
温暖亲情离不开，关爱勇敢地展示。
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