【TED演讲分享-简文】身体语言改变我们的自我——YOUR BODY LANGUAGE SHAPES WHO YOU ARE
2012-11-01 12:15阅读：
身体语言不仅影响着他人对我们的看法，身体语言也在改变着我们自己。
身体语言（Body
Language），大家一定都不陌生。人们在与他人聊天、开会或其他一切需要沟通的场合中都所表现出来各种各样的身体姿势，比如：有的人会双手环抱、有的人会把双手摊开，有的人会用手托腮、有的会紧握拳头、有的还会在说话的时候用手摸摸鼻子摸摸嘴巴等等。身体语言在社交中很重要，因为它代表我们的心理或者状态，影响着其他人对我们的影响和判断。
这种影响其实是双向的。我们的身体语言也会对自我造成显著的影响，会影响我们的思想、情绪甚至是体内的荷尔蒙。如果我们改变一下自己的身体姿势，哪怕只是坚持2分钟，我们能感受到自己的‘内在’在改变，不信？You can
try！
AMY CUDDY : YOUR BODY
LANGUAGE SHAPES WHO YOU ARE
“How many of you are sort of making yourselves
smaller. Maybe you are hunching, crossing your legs, maybe wrapping
your ankles. Sometimes we hold onto to our arms, sometimes we
spread out,”
“What do we do when we feel powerless? We
do exactly the opposite. We close up. We wrap ourselves up. We make
ourselves small. We don’t want to bump into the person next to
us,”
“When we think
of nonverbals, we think of how we judge others, how they judge us
and what the outcomes are. We tend to forget, though, the other
audience that's influenced by our nonverbals, and that's ourselves.
We are also influenced by our nonverbals, our thoughts and our
feelings and our physiology.”
“There are a lot of differences between
powerful and powerless people. Psychologically there are
differences on two key hormones: testosterone, which is the
dominance hormone, and cortisol, which is the stress hormone.
High-power alpha males have high testosterone and low cortisol. We
decided to bring people together and these people adopted, for two
minutes, either high-power poses or low-power poses.” Before and
after they underwent a saliva test and the changes in testosterone
and cortisol were significant. So, says Cuddy, with two minute
posture changes you can influence the outcome of every move of
yours.
“Our bodies change our minds
and our minds can change our behaviour,”
“So when I tell
people about this, that our bodies change our minds and our minds
can change our behavior, and our behavior can change our outcomes,
they say to me,'I don't -- It feels fake.' Right? So I said, fake
it till you make it.”
“At the end of
my first year at Harvard,a student who had not talked in class the
entire semester, who I had said, 'Look, you've gotta participate or
else you're going to fail,' came into my office. I really didn't
know her at all. And she said, she came in totally defeated, and
she said, 'I'm not supposed to be here.'And that was the moment for
me. Because two things happened. One was that I realized, oh my
gosh, I don't feel like that anymore. You know. I don't feel that
anymore, but she does, and I get that feeling. And the second was,
she is supposed to be here! Like, she can fake it, she can become
it. So I was like, 'Yes, you are! You are supposed to be here!
And tomorrow you're going to fake it, you're going to make yourself
powerful, and, you know, 'And you're going to go into the
classroom, and you are going to give the best comment ever.'You
know? And she gave the best comment ever, and people turned around
and they were like, oh my God, I didn't even notice her sitting
there.”
“She comes back
to me months later, and I realized that she had not just faked it
till she made it, she had actually faked it till she became it. So
she had changed. And so I want to say to you, don't fake it till
you make it. Fake it till you become it. You know? It's not —Do it
enough until you actually become it and
internalize.”
“The last thing
I'm going to leave you with is this. Tiny tweaks can lead to big
changes. So this is two minutes. Two minutes, two minutes, two
minutes. Before you go into the next stressful evaluative
situation, for two minutes, try doing this, in the elevator ,in a
bathroom stall, at your desk behind closed doors. That's what you
want to do. Configure your brain to cope the best in that
situation. Get your testosterone up. Get your cortisol down. Don't
leave that situation feeling like, oh, I didn't show them who I am.
Leave that situation feeling like, oh, I really feel likeI got
to say who I am and show who I am.”
